We have tried, in the past, a few different ways to get my little guy off the bottle. Mostly because he seeks it out in the night and so the need to have it is waking him up, then of course once he has had a bottle he needs a new nappy and none of us are getting a good nights sleep. But really, if I have to put a figure on it, it only worries me 15-30% of the time. I can live with it, it’s not the end of the world.
- We’ve tried only giving him water at night, with mild success.
- We’ve tried saying no, and letting him have a tantrum over it, with no success.
- We’ve introduced every type of sippy cup on the market, with no real success.
Soon we’re going on our annual snow trip. Hubby and I have decided that this might be the perfect time to go bottle free.
We’ve told him that, ‘only big boys get to see the snow, and big boys don’t need a bottle’. Instantly he handed his bottle over and gave us the droopy-lip-puppy-dog-eyes look.
‘Oh, not now baby. Only when we go to the snow.’
He’s almost two, so something’s I am sure he understands and something’s I am not so sure about. I do feel that this is a fine line, almost a tight-rope dance. I want to give him warning, to let him be prepared for the bottle simply not coming with us. But on the other hand I don’t want him to become over anxious about the whole thing.
We’re also planning to stop and let him buy a toy and make a big deal out of the toy being for the big boy who has a cup.
I think that might be a key here, not emphasising the ‘no bottle’ or negative aspect but putting emphasis on the ‘big boy with a cup’ or positive aspect.
There is also a nutritional and a full tummy aspect to consider. I plan to purchase yogurt as a before bed snack and then emphasis that we only have water after brushing our teeth… whether this works or not is yet to be seen.
Feeling a need to educate and reassure myself I have gone on a blog trawl. Looking for inspiration from other families and words of wisdom from other parents. Here’s what I found…
‘Never a Dull Moment In The Life Of A Nanny’ said: Many kiddos become attached to their bottles. They have them with them a lot of the time, so besides providing nourishment, bottles also mean comfort and security. That makes it ten times harder to get rid of it and switch over to a sippy cup! Here are a few tried-and-true ways that have worked from moms, dads, nannies, grandparents, etc!
I am in full agreement. My little guy will hug the bottle in his sleep even if it’s empty. A part of me believes I took the dummy away from him too early. At least a dummy doesn’t need filling up, and it doesn’t create the need for midnight bum changes. I am hoping we can replace one security with another, something more practical, like a teddy. Any suggestions.
‘Alpha Mom’ said: I went back to the store and spent a ridiculous amount of money on a ridiculous variety of cups, figuring that we’d keep trying until we found one that he liked. And behold! We did.
I have spend the ridiculous amount of money, tick, but the only sippies he likes are the disposable versions from K-mart. They don’t solve our nigh time bottle issue, as I am not going to be able to give him a sippy cup that doesn’t have a no-spill valve in it in the middle of the night. So I think my best bet is to give up on sippy cups and just him a cup.
‘Buckhead Mommy’ said: Everyone says the baby will give up the nighttime bottle when they’re ready and I can say there is a bit of truth to that.
I read her fantastic post and took a big sigh. Yes, not head butting your babies natural desires does make for a happier household.
Time for doubt… do I really want to do this???
For those not familiar with blw, basically it’s following baby’s cues and rhythm for introducing solids and eventually weaning off breast (or bottle). From ‘BXL Sprout’
Yes, I can see how going from a bottle to solid food would be a natural progression, but I’ve missed that boat. Maybe I was lazy, or distracted, dragging my feet or not paying attention or a mix of these things and more. I am wondering if I can’t backtrack a little. Taking my plan to use yogurt as a desert type treat then teeth brushing as a ‘nothing but water now’ cue. It seems to me, and I hope I’m on the right track here – I’ll keep you posted, that a part of removing the bottle is looking at eating habits and nutrition.
We aim for a 5pm dinner, but he’s not usually asleep until about 8pm. So another meal at 7pm isn’t unreasonable. Slow release foods, like yogurt and banana etc, with milk in a cup?
This could be the beginnings of a plan.
Please feel free to comment, share, offer your advice or link me to a blog post about weaning that you loved.
And I’ll keep you posted on how this cold turkey, no bottle for a week, adventure goes!